Every year up to twenty people die completely alone in Amsterdam. There are no friends or family to prepare their funeral or mourn over the body. No one, that is, except a civil servant and a poet.
Some die alone in their home, with nothing but their identity. The anonymous dead are illegal migrants, drug mules, or simply people who for one reason or another, cut off all social contacts. Some are elderly, some are infants.
For 20 years, retired Amsterdam civil servant Ger Frits has made sure that these lonely or unknown citizens get a respectful send-off. He visits their homes if they had one, and carefully chooses music to play at their funeral. He puts flowers on the coffin and accompanies each person to their final resting place.
without papers, without identity. What were you looking for?
How much did you lose along the way?”
A few years ago, Amsterdam poet Frank Starik decided that these people also deserved to be eulogized. He contacted the Amsterdam city services and asked if he could take part in these forgotten funerals. Despite concerns over privacy, Ger Frits agreed.
Starik says that the poem is first and foremost for the deceased. He’s not a religious man, nor is Ger Frits. But he feels that the funeral is a moment of reckoning. “It’s your time at heaven’s gate, he says. “Someone needs to put in a good word for you.”
“Who then, loved you? In which rooms did you sleep,
who kissed you goodnight, who’ll wear out your shirt?
Who will want to stand where you once stood?
Who now takes the road you took?”
“People are story machines,” explains Starik. “We’re always busy making and re-making our stories. What the Lonely Funeral does is return stories to people who have somehow lost theirs along the way.”
Starting with their very first funeral together, Ger Frits and Frank Starik forged an unlikely friendship based on mutual respect for the lonely citizens of their city.
“Who still looks for you? Who remembers whence you came?
Who heard the voice calling out for you to come on home, man,
to your final haven, Amsterdam.”
The Lonely Funeral was produced and presented by Michele Ernsting. It’s part of the international exchange series Global Perspective – At the Edge. The feature is a Finalist in the category Human Relations at the 2010 New York Festivals.