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Monday 13 February RNW - NEWS AND ANALYSIS FROM THE NETHERLANDS IN 10 LANGUAGES, WORLDWIDE 24/7 ON RADIO, TV AND ONLINE
Friends Yaara (left) and Mona hardly ever get a chance to meet face to face
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Jerusalem, Israel
Jerusalem, Israel

Unlikely friends

Published on : 4 January 2010 - 9:00am | By Dheera Sujan (Photo: RNW)
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Mona Sbouh is a bubbly 17-year-old. She lives in Nablus, where checkpoints and daily humiliation are a part of life for every Palestinian.

“When I see an Israeli, I see someone who hates me, so I’ll keep away from him, not talk to him,” she says.

Yaara Tal is also 17 and bubbly. She lives in Sderot city and her daily life can include a siren that warns her that there’s 20 seconds to hide from incoming Hamas rockets. She has lost a school friend because of those rockets, but her response is surprising...

"Of course I have an anger, but I wanted to tell them what I’m feeling – its not fair when they hear my side from the media and I hear their side through the media, so I think we need to hear each other face to face."

Of all the intractable conflicts in the world, perhaps the one that fires the most heated emotions is the one between Israelis and Palestinians. Generations of Jews and Arabs have grown up to regard the other as the enemy. 

But an organization called Creativity for Peace is working to try to change that - one young mind at a time. It organizes summer camps for young Israeli and Palestinian women in New Mexico for a few weeks each year, so they can talk to and learn about each other. The girls are required to share rooms, participate in daily dialogue sessions where sometimes the discussions are teary and emotional. But through the daily contact, slowly the blurred image of the enemy is replaced by a clearer one of an individual with a face, a name, humanity.

When they go home, girls are encouraged to keep up the friendships.

Mona and Yaara met each other at this camp and they’ve forged a powerful friendship that seems to be flourishing despite the cultural pressures each one faces. Mona says if her teachers ever found out that she’s friends with an Israeli, she’d be thrown out of school. Yaara is still determined to do her army service, but insists that she’ll never treat Palestinians rudely because she now sees them as people just like her.

Unlike teenagers around the world, Mona and Yaara can’t just meet up for a movie and a milkshake. Mona can only go to Israel after going through the paperwork two weeks in advance. Each longs to take the other to their home and introduce them to their family, but both realize that for now at least, this small ambition remains an impossible dream. But they communicate daily via the internet – the digital world is the only facet of their life without borders. 

Radio Netherlands Worldwide wanted to bring them together for an interview, but Mona couldn’t get a visa. On a phone connection, they chat excitedly together describing how their friendship started and flourished. 

At the end of the phone call when they’re asked if they want to say anything else, Yaara lets go of the last of her restraint and yells over the phone “Mona I love you, and I miss you.”

“I miss you too” her friend says. A few words from a couple of young girls that are as yet, not much more than pinpricks in the wall that divides a land. But pinpricks let in the light nevertheless.

Mona and Yaara have learnt that their so-called enemy has a face.

If others could learn that as well, then perhaps this, the most intractable of conflicts, may still have a chance of resolution some distant day.

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Discussion

aura 14 May 2010 - 6:53am / israel

i was so glad to read this! i know and love both these girls soooo much, they are just great. and by the way, they are not always bubbly. when they dialog together about the things that are difficult for them, they are deep and caring, know how to brave their fears about the other in order to get past that. It's just amazing to watch them!
and the best thing is that there are so many other girls like them! check out the Creativity for Peace website if you want to see more cool girls changing the world!

sandrav 7 January 2010 - 6:33am / Nederlands

I don´t know how I missed this beautiful article, but I am glad I came across it and read it. Thank you for sharing this article.

jasmin 5 January 2010 - 10:16am / India

Thanks Dheera, hope you have a great year too.I stumbled upon RNW in 2003 and was delighted to find an Indian woman on RNW staff doing so well. I have always appreciated your stories and made it a point to leave my appreciation, reactions or criticism, as per the story. I feel that a writer should be given a feedback, whether praise for the style, commenting on the story or just disagreeing on some valid point or giving some advice to other visitors. I also sometimes go beyond the stories and get in touch with the real people, in the story, that touches me, and help them. Well, thanks for responding after 7 years...

jasmin 4 January 2010 - 10:06am / India

Hope Israel and Palestine become friends..A lovely story, as always by Dheera Sujan. But I have one question for Dheera: why doesn't she acknowledge the comments, visitors send to her articles? Other journalists of RNW, do thank the visitors or respond to the reactions to their stories. I even congratulated her on her prizes for her programmes, but she never responds. Why so? I hope 'Thank You' is there in her dictionary.

Dheera 5 January 2010 - 9:35am / The Netherlands

Hi Jasmine
Thank you is indeed in my dictionary - as is dhanyawad and shukria. I've just been away on holiday so didn't read your comment till today.
We always read all our listeners' comments with great interest, and respond if there is a story related question.
Glad you like our stories and you're so responsive - hope you keep listening and writing in.
Best wishes for the New Year
Dheera

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